Free-Falling Into Trust: Letting go of fear, control, and the need to know

Sometimes it’s hard to stay conscious of our thoughts. It’s easy to get swept up in the momentum of doing, processing, and simply existing. We become so detached from ourselves that we forget to stop and see the bigger picture — to observe our thoughts, actions, and beliefs, and how they shape our lives.

Have you ever flown in a plane and, as it takes off, looked out the window to watch the world grow smaller and smaller beneath you? Suddenly, your problems feel far away — lighter. That feeling — that expansive perspective — is something we can actively seek in our everyday lives.

From a young age, anxiety hijacked my mind. My default lens became fear and self-doubt. The second something didn’t go as I hoped — a silence, a pause, a conversation — my mind would spin:

What did I do wrong?

Should I have said that differently?

Did I ruin everything?

The old pattern of over-analyzing, gripping, spiraling. But today, I want to be the observer. Instead of unraveling, I will pause. I will breathe. I’ll ask myself:

What do I actually have control over?

And I’ll tell myself something I’ve always known deep down —a truth often drowned out by the noise of anxiety, but one I’m learning to trust:

If it doesn’t work out, it’s not meant to.

And here is what I want to ask — honestly, openly:

What if I could free-fall into trust?

✨ Rebuilding the Foundation

I came across a quote from René Descartes that oddly enough reflects exactly what I’ve been doing over the last few years:

“In order to seek truth, it is necessary once in the course of our life to doubt, as far as possible, all things — to rid oneself of all opinions and rebuild from the very foundations one’s entire system of knowledge.”

And I thought…What if that includes the way I think about myself? What if rebuilding my life from the ground up means questioning not just the world, but the fearful thoughts that flood my mind — the assumptions that I’m not safe unless I control everything, or that I have to over-analyze someone’s silence, or fix something before it’s even broken?

Because here’s what I’m learning:

Energy flows where attention goes.

Whatever my focus is on — fear or faith, doubt or trust — I feed with my energy. And when my attention is constantly flowing toward fear, I’m feeding anxiety. I’m creating resistance where peace wants to live.

But when I doubt the fear — and gently choose to shift my focus toward trust, presence, and possibility — the whole structure of my reality begins to change.

Maybe this is what Descartes was getting at, in his own way — that truth isn’t found in clinging to what we’ve always believed, but in being willing to question it all. Even the thoughts that feel familiar. Even the ones that sound like “protection.”

💛 When You Can’t Change the Situation…

There’s a moment on the healing path when you realize: No matter how tightly you hold on… some things are simply out of your hands. And that moment, as terrifying as it feels, is also sacred.

Viktor Frankl wrote in Man’s Search for Meaning:

“When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

That’s the crossroads. That’s the place where you either spiral into control and fear — or you surrender. You soften. You shift. And maybe that shift looks like:

• Saying, “I don’t have to fix this — I just have to stay present.”

• Letting someone walk away without chasing them.

• Trusting that if it doesn’t unfold how you hoped, it’s still leading you where you’re meant to be.

  
  

Each time I choose trust, I strengthen my soul’s resilience. I change the channel. I reroute the energy. I become new.

🧰 The Tools Are Already Within

Wayne Dyer said:

“You have everything you need for complete peace and total happiness right now.”

And I believe that.

The tools to shift your thoughts — to quiet your mind, soften your heart, and come home to yourself — are already here. You don’t have to earn peace. You don’t have to chase it.You just have to remember it’s available.

Right here. Right now. No matter what’s happening outside you. When your mind spirals. When the fear voice gets loud. When you want to grip, fix, or flee…place a hand on your heart and whisper this mantra:

“I choose peace instead of this.” — Wayne Dyer

Repeat it until you feel the softening. Repeat it until you remember: You’re already held. You’re already whole. You can free-fall into trust and God/Universe/Source will catch you.

🦉 Shifting the Lens

Peace doesn’t always come from changing the outside. Often, it comes from changing the way we look.

Wayne Dyer also taught:

“Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change.”

So today, I’m shifting:

• I see delay as redirection.

• I see rejection as protection.

• I see endings as sacred space for beginnings.

  
  

I’m learning to trust the detour. To breathe instead of brace. To free-fall into faith instead of fear. And with each small shift in perspective…the whole world softens.